How To Lead Worship For A Wedding
By Dan Wilt
Itâ€™s a big day.
Youâ€™ve just been asked to lead worship for a wedding. Maybe youâ€™ve done it before, and maybe you havenâ€™t, but it seems that each wedding is very unique and requires something slightly different from us as musicians.
Why are they asking us to lead worship at their wedding? They most probably value you as a musician. They also need someone who does it well and regularly, so they know it wonâ€™t flop (it is their big day, after all). They value worship music, and the sacred space it can create.
However, unless they are musicians, they may not be thinking about the venue, instruments, sound systems, styles, songs or even what you are at your best doing. They just want it to work and be amazing â€“ and by the way, could you involve Aunt Bessie and her Sousaphone?
So, you say â€śYes,â€ť knowing their expectations are high. Where do you start?
1. What Makes A Wedding Unique?
A Wedding is a once-in-a â€ślifetimeâ€ť worship event. It is unique from other worship services.Â Two people are coming together to make a covenant with one another, along with their extended and diverse families. Expectations for a â€śbeautifulâ€ť experience are high for all ages. It is unique – treat it as such.
2. What Are The Appropriate Instruments?
If â€śbeautyâ€ť is important (it is always the actual, ultimate goal in a wedding), what instruments that you and others play will work?Â Ask the couple what instruments they would like in that church context. Note the venue and sound system. Sometimes, you need to guide them into a different idea given the limitations that day.
3. What Are Your Limits?
Where can you go, and where canâ€™t you go, in terms of time and spontaneity?Â Get clear direction from the couple, and honor it. That service, including the worship set, is ultimately theirs to guide as the worship planner. Serve and avoid grand-standing attitudes.
4. Who Is Choosing The Songs?
Do the Bride and Groom already have songs that they love that they are asking you to do?Â Build a set based on the kinds of themes that will make that part beautiful and memorable. Keys should work for all ages, and songs that are unfamiliar should be recognized as such.
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